Sucks when your friends don’t care

We operate in a social group which is really supportive. Bad things happen and crowdfunders get set up. I’ve seen it happen for weddings, house fires and broken cars.

But never for us.

Friends got married quickly cos one of their mum’s was dying. Crowdfunder. Us in same situation. No.


And today – someone had a car accident on the way home. Crowdfunder for new car! £1k and more raised in hours.

Us, due to sickness, we are in serious financial crisis, getting boxes from the food bank and I honestly don’t know what we’ll do next month. Crowdfunder?! No.

I know I have no right to expect anything, but it really does make you feel like shit 😦


Sad evening

The small child went to bed really nicely! I pootled downstairs happily looking forward to a bit of husband time.

Husband is having buddy time on the xbox.

I fully approve of buddy time – someting has to happen to compensate for having no local friends – but am just feeling a bit sad.

And wishing, again, how to solve the dilemma of ‘we have no friends, child needs sibling’ vs ‘I fear the impact on sleep, finances and mental health might break stuff’.

Hard days

We are heading into month 3-4 of statutory sick pay due to husband’s anxiety and depression. He is working really hard on it and I am really proud of him. It’s getting very hard with money though, we have £100 left in saving and this month’s bills have put us in our overdraft.

It hasn’t helped that we have consistently received less than we should for ssp. First month his employer took £100 in tax off £350 ssp… Second month because they were waiting on sick notes, they have only paid £180 and ignored his pre booked holiday and the day he Did work. Which is why we are now in lots of financial trouble – we just can’t cover being down by £1200 per month.

Feeling quite stressed. No idea what I am going to put together for lunch today, especially considering both lack of money And gluten free.